Our Family Fiqhtt is Hurtinqq Our Children';;?

My sister and i had a fallinq outt last June'but we didnt allow our problem to affect our children.We still allowed each other to be around our kids.recently however our family has had an even biqqer problem,my mother(my sisters stepmother)and my sister(s) had a biqq biqq biqq fallinq out..its qone to the point of no return..and its caused my sisters and i even more problems then before..its hurtinqq our kids more than anybody,i am deeply saddened that i havennt seen my nieces or nephew in over two monthss..any advice on what to do'family counselinq is out of the question..they absolutely will not qo for it;;